What is the best way to improve your relationship to money? The answer to that is the same as the answer to how you would go about improving ANY relationship?through love. You can?t enjoy a good relationship with money unless you?re willing to love it, through thick and thin.
Love is a choice and an intention?not only an emotion, but also a behavior. When we choose to love our cat even though she scratched us, that?s love. Or when we choose to help our child solve a problem with all of our patience, resources and energy?even though we might be running low on all of those qualities?that?s love too.
We know we?ve invested our love in the right way when our relationships continue to improve. And, our relationships with money will continue to improve too, as long as we honor it in the same 15 ways that we honor the other important relationships in our lives:
Pay Attention To It. When your loved one comes into the room, you acknowledge him or her. Even if you don?t have time or your hands our full, you still pay attention. You would never roll your eyes and tell them, ?I?ll deal with you later!?
Make Time For It. Date night for couples is every bit as important as setting a date to make time for money in your life. You respect what you inspect. This is how you improve your competency.
Prioritize It. As we get older and our lives get fuller, we must choose how we spend our time. Whether this is conscious or unconscious, our priorities create our value system. If you want to place more value on money in your life, you have to make a conscious choice to prioritize it.
Celebrate The Good. When a kid achieves something, you put the medal, certificate or piece of art on the fridge. When you feel like you?ve made some progress with your money relationship, you must allow yourself the same moment of recognition. You?d never tell your kid, ?Well, I guess that?s okay, but I expect a lot more from you in the future!?
Forgive The Bad. When a loved one makes a mistake, you don?t flip out on them (I hope you don?t!); you acknowledge they did their best, forgive them and move on. When money doesn?t come soon enough, or you find yourself earning less than you hoped for, you need to remember that this is one blip in a relationship that lasts a lifetime . . . and move on.
Keep A Sense of Humor. Have you noticed that it?s more fun to be with someone when they are willing to laugh at themselves? Those characteristics of self awareness and the willingness to not take themselves so seriously is a killer combination for successful relationships. Money doesn?t have to be super serious; in fact, it?s better when it?s not.
Respect It. With loved ones, you don?t simply take their voice or presence for granted?or if you do, you?re not going to get the kind of relationship you want. You money is always trying to tell you something, so you need to pay attention and look for the clues.
Don?t Manipulate It or Try Power Plays. With people and things you really love, you don?t really think about the balance of power. And if you love someone, you?d never want them to do something just because you manipulated them into doing it (unless you?re money codependent). If you?re hoping to get money from someone who you perceive to be in a power struggle with you, it will come very slowly. Eliminate the ideas of power from your thoughts about money and it will flow much more easily.
Don?t Blame It For Your Bad Mood. Money is never the reason you?re in a bad mood; it?s your perception of the situation that causes you fear and pain. When you think you?re mad at money, you need to pull back the lens and try to understand how your thinking got you to this place. You can?t heal your emotional life with intellectual thought, but you can start to understand your triggers.
Article source: http://www.forbes.com/sites/moneywisewomen/2012/02/13/15-ways-to-improve-your-relationship-with-money/
Source: http://the-hand.fut-the-wuck.com/2012/02/15-ways-to-improve-your-relationship-with-money/
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